All photos taken by Karen Alvarez
Hello my people,
Do you remember when you were in elementary school and on the first day your teacher usually made you play like 12 “Get to Know You” games? That way you could learn more about your classmates and at the end of the day you already had a bunch of new friends. I wish they had that in the real world. Meeting friends when you’re an adult is hard. Meeting friends when you’re 23, married, self employed AND a new mom is really hard. That has been our reality for the last year and a half that we’ve lived in NorCal. Don’t get me wrong, I have LOVED hanging with my hubby all the time, and it has definitely made our relationship stronger when we only had each other out here, but a girl has got to have her ladies nights sometimes!
I had to put myself out there and seriously try to make buddies. This is super embarrassing and I can’t believe I’m even about to admit this, but at one point I got so desperate for friends that I joined that site meetup.com. If you haven’t heard of it its kind of like E-Harmony for friends. I never actually went to any of the events because I just felt way too lame, but some of them seemed pretty cool. If you ever check it out, let me know how it goes!
So anyway, here we are 19 months into this move and FINALLY starting to make friends. The #1 lesson moving to a new state has taught me, is you have to put yourself out there. Vulnerability is scary. Putting yourself in a position to be shut down is hard, but lately I have had the mentality of “nothing ventured nothing gained” and it has been paying off big time. Have you ever met someone that you instantly click with? Like, your vibes mesh immediately and they just get you? That’s how it was with Karen, the friggin’ magician that has been taking my photos! She is the coolest and so so talented behind the camera. If you are ever in Northern California and needing a photographer, you really have to check her out.
These photos were taken at the CUTEST coffee shop here in Stockton. Sometimes I don’t give this city enough credit! It is super hidden and you literally have to go down a back alley to find it. I definitely didn’t feel cool enough to be in there, but luckily they didn’t kick me out. I ordered a hot chocolate because it was 3pm and ya girl wasn’t trying to be awake all night, and It was literally the best I’ve ever had. I consider myself a bit of a cocoa connoisseur, so that’s saying something! After we got our drinks we just walked around downtown and Karen worked her magic. It was sooo much fun and I can’t wait to do it again!
I hope you all have an amazing weekend!
-Be sure to size down on the poncho, I’m wearing a small-