So, I got this Friday Apparel sweatshirt in the mail the other day and I am so obsessed with it. Seriously, you guys, it is the softest thing I have ever worn (for real) and I especially love the fit. But the best part is the message it displays. Love yourself. Sounds simple enough right? It took me a really long time to be comfortable being in my own skin, and some days I’m not even sure I’m 100% there. But what I know for sure is that if I don’t love and respect who I am, I can’t expect my children to either, and that is not the example I want to set. Our sweet babies absorb so much more than we realize so I want to instill a healthy body image from an early age.
There is SO much pressure these days to be the perfect size, have the perfect relationship, and live the perfect life. If you haven’t “bounced back” after the birth of your baby after a few weeks then society says you’re damaged goods. I hate that. The body I had before my child will never be my body again. That body didn’t carry a baby for 9+ months. That body didn’t continue to nourish that baby outside of the womb. Why are we trying to hide the fact that our bodies can create and sustain life?! I’m so proud of my body and the (big) babies it’s made. It is truly a blessing and one that is denied to far too many.
One of the main reasons why I started this blog (other than my obsession with fashion) was because I felt like the average sized body wasn’t well represented in the blogger/Instagram community. I’m not petite, but I’m not in the plus size category either. I’m just kickin’ it somewhere in the middle. Every body is beautiful and I love feeling like I am reaching an audience of in betweeners like myself. You don’t have to be a size 2 to wear cute clothes, and look hot as hell while doing it. Some days accepting the fact that these stretch marks aren’t going anywhere, and that my hips are about as wide as the Nile is long, are harder than others, but then I’m reminded that I am soo much more that what I see in the mirror. I am a daughter, a granddaughter, a sister, an aunt, a wife, and a mother. All of these roles in my life are what make me who I am.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying we shouldn’t care about our bodies. I saw a quote once and it has always stuck with me. It said, “You can still love your body while trying to change it.” I love that. I want my body to be healthy, strong, and capable. Of course there are some things that I can’t change, and that’s okay. But I want to work towards being my best self mentally, physically, and spiritually. It’s a lifelong journey and one that keeps changing and evolving.
After this weeks election, there has been a lot of hate and negativity all around. In times like these, we need to be the light that radiates on the rest of the world and that all starts with self love. If no one has told you lately, just know that you are beautiful, relevant, and capable of amazing things. Now go out and have the best weekend and don’t forget to LOVE YOURSELF! You deserve it.